I thought I had found The One…but it turns out I’m just his bit on the side
DEAR DEIDRE: I GOT a message from my boyfriend’s supposed ex to say they have a child and are still together. I thought we were a couple but I’m just his “bit on the side”.
When we met four years ago he told me they had split permanently because she cheated on him. I was 22 then and a bit naive. He’s five years older than me.
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He promised the world to me and said he wanted to marry me and have kids.
I sensed something was not quite right as I was not allowed to meet his family and we never actually spent a night together. He always had to get home due to work or some other commitment next day.
Last week after the message from his ex, I went to his house without telling him. The ex was clearly living there and so was their two-year-old child.
I’ve looked on Facebook and he’s obviously been living a double life all along. It has all been one great big lie. I am heartbroken.
DEIDRE SAYS: As a consolation at least you now know what a liar and a cheat he is – and you’re not tied to him.
Make a clean break, block him, accept no excuses and rejoice that you are free to meet someone who will commit 100 per cent. My e-leaflet, Moving On, will help.
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