People are begging me not to get married over the receipt I found in my fiance’s emails – just a week after his stag do
A WOMAN has been left questioning her entire marriage before even getting the chance to walk up the aisle.
She was left distraught after finding evidence her partner may have cheated while on his stag do two weeks before the big day.
Taking to social media, the woman revealed she was under no suspicions her partner was unfaithful until she saw a shocking email on his computer.
The bride-to-be said: “I saw an email over my fiance’s shoulder from an online pharmacy for an STI kit, a week after he got back from his stag do.”
Now she was left dumbfounded and unsure how to bring it up.
I never ever thought I’d be the type of woman who wouldn’t say anything
Bride-to-be
Many of us have an idea of what we might do if we caught our partner cheating – whether it’s confronting them immediately or collecting evidence first.
And the woman revealed she never thought she’d be the kind to keep tight-lipped, but found herself doing just that.
“I never ever thought I’d be the type of woman who wouldn’t say anything/confront him but we are less than 2 weeks out from our wedding and I don’t know how to approach the subject,” she explained.
Now, she was unsure what to do with the wedding fast approaching and found herself going between reasons he bought the sexual transmitted infections test kit.
“One minute I’m convincing myself he purchased it for someone else and the next I’m beside myself not knowing what to do/how I’m supposed to marry him,” she added.
Now she was asking people online on whether to bring it up or leave it alone.
People were quick to share their opinions on the Mumsnet post and many urged her not to marry her husband saying it was obvious he had played away.
One person wrote: “Please in the name of all that is holy, don’t marry him. He’s putting your health at risk!!! Cancel the wedding unless you want a lifetime of this anguish and possible STIs.”
Another commented: “OP you know he bought this for himself. You know he had sex with someone else a few weeks before he is/was due to marry you.
“Do not marry this man. Do not marry this man. Do not marry this man.”
“It is easier to cancel a wedding than get divorced,” penned a third.
Four red flags your partner is cheating
Private Investigator Aaron Bond from BondRees revealed four warning signs your partner might be cheating
They start to take their phone everywhere with them
In close relationships, it’s normal to know each other’s passwords and use each other’s phones, if their phone habits change then they may be hiding something.
Aaron says “If your partner starts changing their passwords, starts taking their phone everywhere with them, even around the house or they become defensive when you ask to use their phone it could be a sign of them not being faithful.”
“You should also look at how they place their phone down when not in use. If they face the phone with the screen facing down, then they could be hiding something.”
They start telling you less about their day
When partners cheat they can start to avoid you, this could be down to them feeling guilty or because it makes it easier for them to lie to you.
“If you feel like your partner has suddenly begun to avoid you and they don’t want to do things with you any more or they stop telling you about their day then this is another red flag.”
“Partners often avoid their spouses or tell them less about their day because cheating can be tough, remembering all of your lies is impossible and it’s an easy way to get caught out,” says Aaron.
Their libido changes
Your partner’s libido can change for a range of reasons so it may not be a sure sign of cheating but it can be a red flag according to Aaron.
Aaron says “Cheaters often have less sex at home because they are cheating, but on occasions, they may also have more sex at home, this is because they feel guilty and use this increase in sex to hide their cheating. You may also find that your partner will start to introduce new things into your sex life that weren’t there before.”
They become negative towards you
Cheaters know that cheating is wrong and to them, it will feel good, this can cause tension and anxiety within themselves which they will need to justify.
“To get rid of the tension they feel inside they will try to convince themselves that you are the problem and they will become critical of you out of nowhere. Maybe you haven’t walked the dog that day, put the dishes away or read a book to your children before bedtime. A small problem like this can now feel like a big deal and if you experience this your partner could be cheating,” warns Aaron.
Meanwhile a fourth said: “If he’s cheated now, he’ll cheat on you again once you’re married.”
“Just ask him ASAP, don’t put it off. His reaction will tell you the truth,” claimed a fifth
Someone else added: “Better to cancel a wedding than to get divorced. Talk to him, you’ll know from his reaction. Ask him to show you his messages/emails.”
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