I’m addicted to masturbating and now I can’t get it up when I’m with a woman
DEAR DEIDRE: FOR the last six years I have pleasured myself five times a day or more. I’m worried I’m addicted to it and fear it’s stopping me from having sex with a woman. I’m a 21-year-old man. I look at porn and have no trouble reaching orgasm. But whenever I try having sex with […]
DEAR DEIDRE: FOR the last six years I have pleasured myself five times a day or more.
I’m worried I’m addicted to it and fear it’s stopping me from having sex with a woman.
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I’m a 21-year-old man. I look at porn and have no trouble reaching orgasm.
But whenever I try having sex with a woman, I do not rise to the occasion. It seems like a woman’s body can’t compete with the sensation I get alone.
There’s a girl I really like, but she’s no longer talking to me.
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When we tried to have sex, I kept losing my erection, and I think she took it personally.
I’d really like to be able to have a relationship. I fear I’ve damaged myself.
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DEIDRE SAYS: It is unlikely you’ve damaged yourself physically, but you might have created a psychological problem by watching too much porn, meaning real sex doesn’t measure up.
And sometimes a person’s masturbation style doesn’t easily cross over into sex with a partner.
Perhaps you’re not getting the same level of sensation from sex, and need to practise a different style.
Taking it slowly with an understanding partner will help.
See my support pack, Hooked On Masturbation.