7 Concrete Signs You’re (Actually) Healthy Together

1. You aren’t afraid to disagree.

Disagreements and fights are bound to happen in any relationship, including one that is deeply healthy and happy. Merging two human lives is no easy feat, so a bit of turbulence here and there is inevitable.

That said, you do fight right. In other words, you don’t hit below the belt, you communicate openly and honestly, and you take space when things are getting a little too heated. You are both focused on the goal of resolution, not being right. And when the occasion calls for it, you’re able to agree to disagree and move on.

2. You aren’t each other’s “everything.” But you are one another’s priority.

You both have individual identities outside of the relationship. You each have your own friends, hobbies, and goals. You aren’t afraid to spend time apart and encourage one another to pursue each other’s own unique interests.

However, when the time comes to prioritize your relationship, you both do so without fail. You are committed to them and they are equally committed to you in return. Sure, you aren’t each other’s everything; but you do put them first and vice versa whenever the need arises.

3. You have compatible values and goals.

This is one of the more logistical parts of a partnership, but absolutely essential nonetheless. A healthy relationship is one where each partner’s values and life visions align. For example, if you want children and your partner doesn’t, this is a sign that you are not the right fit for one another.

4. The foundation of your partnership is respect and trust.

Because without respect and trust, there is no room for love to grow.

5. You have fun together.

Even if you’re just hanging out on the couch rewatching New Girl reruns, you still enjoy one another’s company. You genuinely love spending time together no matter what. You don’t need to have anything crazy planned in order to have fun.

6. Both of your friends and family support your relationship.

Your family and friends get along with your S.O. You also get along with your partner’s friends and family. As well, they have expressed approval of your partnership. Since your friends and family know you best, this is a telltale sign you and your person are truly healthy together.

7. You choose one another every single day.

In the end, love is more than just a feeling. It is a commitment. You both put in the effort to make each other feel important and valued daily. You each understand how lucky you are to have one another and never take this fact for granted.