As A Woman Over 50, Are You Still Dating Like You're 18?
With vibrant memories of your school years still floating around in your head, most of the time you don't feel or look like you're in your 50s and 60s.
So now that you're single, you're out there looking for members of the opposite sex like you would have back when you were in school.
But ... instead of wanting the handsome football captain, today you're looking for his older version ... a man who is successful, good looking and charming.
So you go online with your 20-year-old mind and who pops up? Fifty-plus-year-old men who look like your grandfather did with grey, thinning hair, a belly and a boatload of baggage.
No wonder it seems like no one's out there to date -- they all seem too old for you!
But the truth is, you have your stuff too. While men are balding, you are probably finding strands of hair popping up all over the place. In fact, if you think about it, hair removal could probably be considered a part-time job for us ladies after 50.
You might have leftover pregnancy weight from 20 or 30 years ago, spider veins becoming more visible every day and hormones that wreak havoc with your system and put the fear of God into anyone within 10 feet of you on a bad day.
A couple of years ago, I remember seeing a picture on Facebook of my handsome high school sweetheart who, by the way, did play football back then.
I was shocked! The young man I remembered had long black hair and wore "cool painter's pants." In my mind, I expected an older version of this man.
Instead, there he was with snow-white hair and a suit. Although still handsome, he looked just like his father.
I remember thinking there was no way I could look that old? But I probably do. I just don't see it.
Recently, a wonderful gentleman told me this story that I feel like we can all relate to. He was getting ready to post his picture on an online dating site and his daughter says, "Dad, Why are you posting a picture of you from 10 years ago?"
He confided in me that the picture was how he still saw himself and he hadn't realized his face had aged so much since it was taken.
None of us likes to think we are getting older, but we are and so are the men we are looking to date.
There are some men who have kept their looks and have aged well. Yet there are others who haven't.
And when they haven't, you usually end up passing them by online.
Yet if you'd met that same man in real life, you might think twice about his potential because all of a sudden his personality shines and that combined with his looks can make him one handsome man in your eyes.
Attraction is important. But more important is who he is underneath those looks.
Wouldn't you love to be with a man who will be at your side through thick and thin ... who you have fun with on weekends and on vacation ... who sees you as beautiful even as you age?
He's out there and might possibly be one of those men who's staring back at you online from your computer screen.
If he seems nice, give him a chance He just may turn out to be the wonderful, loving man you've been looking for.
Let me know how it works out for you.
Lisa Copeland is known as the expert on over 50's dating. She's the best-selling author of The Winning Dating Formula For Women Over 50 and her mission is to help as many women around the world as she can discover how to have fun dating and finding their Mr. Right after 50. To get your FREE Report, "5 Little Known Secrets To Find A Quality Man," visit www.findaqualityman.com.
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