My cheating ex was secretly having sex with THREE women – the ink on our marriage certificate was barely dry
LAYSA Miller, 31, from the UK, was stunned when she discovered new husband Rodrigo was sleeping with not one but THREE other women.
Now she’s chosen to share her story with Fabulous:
Standing in front of the mirror and smoothing down my top as I turned left and right, I examined my reflection from all angles.
‘Another one to go back,’ I sighed, peeling it off and flinging it on the bed with the others. My 28th birthday was approaching and I’d treated myself to a few new outfits.
A couple of garments were ‘keepers’ but after trying them on at home, I’d decided to take a few others back to the shop.
Folding the clothes back into the bag, I grabbed my coat and made my way downstairs. Picking up the car keys from the bowl by the front door, I headed out.
‘The car’s filthy,’ I thought, as I made my way down the path to our black Chevrolet Prisma.
About to find out…
Keeping the car clean was my husband Rodrigo’s job but by the look of it, it hadn’t been anywhere near a car wash for a long time.
Rodrigo and I had married a year earlier in our native Brazil, after dating for two years.
He worked in the chemist’s next door to my house and when we bumped into each other and got chatting, there was a definite spark between us.
We got together quickly and within six months, we got our own place together.
Flinging my shopping bags on the passenger seat and running my finger over the dusty dashboard, I vowed to give it a clean when I got back from returning my new outfits.
Four red flags your partner is cheating
Private Investigator Aaron Bond from BondRees revealed four warning signs your partner might be cheating.
They start to take their phone everywhere with them
In close relationships, it’s normal to know each other’s passwords and use each other’s phones, if their phone habits change then they may be hiding something.
Aaron says: “If your partner starts changing their passwords, starts taking their phone everywhere with them, even around the house or they become defensive when you ask to use their phone it could be a sign of them not being faithful.”
“You should also look at how they place their phone down when not in use. If they face the phone with the screen facing down, then they could be hiding something.”
They start telling you less about their day
When partners cheat they can start to avoid you, this could be down to them feeling guilty or because it makes it easier for them to lie to you.
“If you feel like your partner has suddenly begun to avoid you and they don’t want to do things with you any more or they stop telling you about their day then this is another red flag.”
“Partners often avoid their spouses or tell them less about their day because cheating can be tough, remembering all of your lies is impossible and it’s an easy way to get caught out,” says Aaron.
Their libido changes
Your partner’s libido can change for a range of reasons so it may not be a sure sign of cheating but it can be a red flag according to Aaron.
Aaron says: “Cheaters often have less sex at home because they are cheating, but on occasions, they may also have more sex at home, this is because they feel guilty and use this increase in sex to hide their cheating. You may also find that your partner will start to introduce new things into your sex life that weren’t there before.”
They become negative towards you
Cheaters know that cheating is wrong and to them, it will feel good, this can cause tension and anxiety within themselves which they will need to justify.
“To get rid of the tension they feel inside they will try to convince themselves that you are the problem and they will become critical of you out of nowhere. Maybe you haven’t walked the dog that day, put the dishes away or read a book to your children before bedtime. A small problem like this can now feel like a big deal and if you experience this your partner could be cheating,” warns Aaron.
Later, at home, I padded into the kitchen and stood at the sink as I turned on the tap and filled up a bucket of water.
Straining as I carried it outside, I sloshed the water over the car bonnet and got to work with a sponge.
‘That looks better already,’ I thought, as I got to start on the interior.
After vacuuming the driver and passenger seats, I turned my attention to the back seats. Crouching down, I ran the Hoover over the upholstery and carpet.
Just then, the nozzle knocked into something hard in the rear footwell and I clicked the Hoover off to take a closer look.
A secret phone?
Pulling back the carpet mat, I uncovered a mobile phone. Why was it hidden?
When it asked for a passcode, I took a chance and entered the series of numbers Rodrigo used on his usual phone.
I swiped to his WhatsApp folder and clicked it open.
My eyes widened in horror as I realised Rodrigo had been messaging three different women and as I scrolled through their chats, I could see their entire relationships recorded in detail.
Sext-ing… and more
From sleazy meets to steamy phone calls, it was obvious Rodrigo had been having sex with these women.
I felt bile rise in my throat, I clutched my stomach as I pushed the car door open and was violently sick in the street.
Wiping my mouth with the back of my hand afterwards, tears pricked my eyes as I clutched Rodrigo’s secret phone and marched inside the house.
Rodrigo was taking a nap but I woke him. “What the hell is this?” I said, throwing the phone at him and waking him up.
His face was a picture as he sat up, the sickening realisation dawning.
The game was up and as Rodrigo looked at the secret burner phone I’d found hidden in the back of the car, I watched as the colour drained from his face.
No option to deny
There wasn’t much he could say. He couldn’t deny it – he was holding the evidence in his hands. “Please, give me another chance,” Rodrigo pleaded after he admitted seeing the women.
It was heartbreaking, Rodrigo’s betrayal had driven me to despair. But as I listened to him apologise over and over, it was clear he wanted to give the marriage another chance.
“I don’t know if I can move past it,” said. “I think I just need some time.”
For three months, Rodrigo and I separated as we took some time to think about what we really wanted.
“Please don’t give up on us. I promise I’ll change,” Rodrigo begged.
Eventually I relented and I agreed to give him a second chance. But we were on and off after that as we desperately tried to make things work between us.
A clean slate
“I think we need a fresh start,” I said the following year. “A clean slate to start again.”
Rodrigo agreed and we decided to move to the UK together and give our marriage a new lease of life on the other side of the world.
But within less than a year, it became clear that the whole thing was a car crash. “It’s over, Rodrigo,” I said. “We have to accept it. For good this time.”
Our marriage had only lasted for two years. The ink was barely dry on our marriage certificate. It was sad but Rodrigo’s betrayal set me on the road to hell and now, we’re better off as friends.
Rodrigo said: “Unfortunately, that’s what happened. She asked me if she could publish the story, I said yes.”
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