My Army job made me miss the best years of being a dad and now my daughters just want my money
DEAR DEIDRE: I ALWAYS imagined I’d be a hands-on dad and am so sad my daughters only see me as a cash machine.
I have worked in the Army for the past 30 years and my job takes me away for months at a time so our relationship has often felt pretty detached.
I’m 57 and my daughters are 22 and 24.
Their mother and I were together for only three years, so I missed out a lot on their upbringing.
I left the military two years ago and have tried to spend more time with them but they treat me like the Bank of England.
They only call when they want something and never ask how I am.
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I recently paid £2,500 for my eldest’s garden renovation and she still hasn’t invited me over to see it.
DEIDRE SAYS: You could do with some healthy boundaries.
Try sharing how you feel with your daughters.
Take the lead and invite them over.
Explain how much it would mean to you if they did the same.
Until then, my support pack Standing Up For Yourself might help.
